“What if I don’t succeed?”
This is a common thought pattern that stops us from moving towards our goals. It can be easy to get caught up in the idea of failure. We think, “I’m never going to make it, so why even try?” But the truth is, if you want success, you need to be open to failure. You need to learn from your mistakes and mistakes are inevitable when you’re trying something new. If you’re not willing to fail, then you’re not willing to succeed either!
If you find yourself thinking about failure often, take some time each day for self-reflection. Ask yourself: “Why do I keep thinking about failure?” You might find that there is something about your past experiences that keeps getting in the way of your success today. For example: maybe you’ve been told repeatedly throughout your life how much better others are than you are and that’s what makes you feel so small and unworthy at times – but this thought pattern doesn’t help move things forward in any way shape or form!
Here are 8 of the most harmful thought patterns stopping you from having the success and happiness you want:
- “It’s just too hard”
It is possible to make any goal happen. You just have to be willing to work for it. If you believe in yourself, believe that your dreams are possible, and commit to making them happen, nothing can stop you!
- “It’s just not the right time”
The world does not revolve around you. It revolves around you if you let it! The only thing standing between you and your goal is yourself—and no one else will do it for you! If something feels like a barrier or a roadblock, take a step back and ask yourself what’s really keeping you from getting what you want out of life? What would change if that obstacle were removed? You can do it!
- “They are so much better than me”
We all have different strengths and weaknesses; there is no point in comparing ourselves with others or feeling inferior because of our shortcomings—we
- “I’m completely alone”
You are not alone. You have people who care about you, who will help you achieve your goals, and who will celebrate your success when it happens.
- “I won’t be happy until I get the outcome I want”
You will be happy when you achieve your goals and they are met. If they aren’t met, then it’s okay to be sad or disappointed with yourself—but don’t let that stop you from moving forward.
- “It’s never going to work”
There is always a way to make things happen, even if it means setting aside your own beliefs for a short time so that you can see something else that might work better for you in the long run!
- “I’m not going to find anything better”
Have faith in yourself! You deserve what makes YOU happy—and if something doesn’t fit with what makes YOU happy right now, then maybe it just isn’t meant for
- “I will always be ignored or mistreated, even by my family members”
- “It is not possible for me to make anything out of myself, because others have done so much better than me in my life”
- “I am too fat, too tall, too short, too old, too young” or any other comparison based on physical appearance (e.g., eyesight) or age (e.g., 20 years old vs. 100 years old).